I know It has been awhile since I have updated this and want you to know I am still fully committed to finishing the 62 acts of kindness, that I started on January 2nd. My family has just hit a rocky road lately. Ridley had to get glasses which I can’t get him to wear to save a life and still will probably need surgery. John’s mom who passed away 3 weeks before my mom’s birthday was on March 16th. That also happens to be John’s Birthday; So that was a really emotional day for us. There is not a day that goes by that I don’t miss my mother-in-law, She was the rock of the Dearry family. John lost his job also; so he is on the job hunt and  I am looking for something that I can do while juggling school and the kids. When I sit down and I think about what has happened this year I am in awe. John’s mom passed away, My mom passed away, I broke my leg and was useless for 12 weeks, I had surgery and tons of physical therapy on my leg, I had to postpone nursing school for a whole year because they only offer the classes for once a year and they would not allow me to be in school with my broken leg, we found out Ridley need surgery, My family has basically imploded and it is rare to have a conversation that doesn’t end with yelling. The stress is so over whelming at this point, I feel like an elephant is sitting on my chest and like I am constantly just trying to hold things together and hold back from breaking down. I am so grateful to the people who have stepped in and shown us some love during this time. I just wanted to let you guys know I haven’t forgotten about my commitment and I am working on some more random acts of kindness. things have just been hard for us lately and we are just trying to keep our head above water. 

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Winters Kindness

A daughter without her mother is a woman broken. It is a loss that turns to arthritis and settles deep into her bones.
Kristin Hannah, American author

Sorry it has been awhile since I updated this blog, we had a very busy week that included a wedding, Bachelorette party, a death, some illnesses being passed around our home and I had a huge test at school this week.

I have been trying to include the boys in my random acts of kindness, so that they might understand giving to others is a very good thing.
Last week I took the boys to the candy store and we passed out candy and valentines to some people we knew and then we passed out some to some elderly people at a local retirement home.

I paid for someone’s coffee at Starbucks while I was studying

I left some change on a vending machine at school with a note that said have a treat on me.

Because my cooking is so bad we took took donuts instead of my baking to the Madison Heights fire and police station. The boys got a few gifts in return from the very nice fireman.

I shoveled my neighbors sidewalk today and cleaned off some random cars that were parked outside my house.

I also delivered our collection of basic goods for the troops that I had been collecting over the last month.

So that puts our grand total acts of kindness to 28 acts so far.

When I started this, I didn’t know what to expect. I didn’t realize how expensive it would be, I didn’t think it would have such an impact on me. I thought that this would be a great way to honor my mother and that would be that. I can honestly say giving back like this has been life changing. I know that it will be something that my family always focuses on. This has also confirmed my choice of going to school to be a nurse.

I have had more than my fair share of sleepless nights lately, I just miss my mom so much I can’t even really put it into words.

I will try to update this blog more often, I lost my debit card so, I will have to be creative with my acts of kindness until I get one but honestly the acts of kindness that have no cost me any money have made the biggest impact.

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Take a look around

Mama exhorted her children at every opportunity to ‘jump at de sun.’ We might not land on the sun, but at least we would get off the ground. -Zora Neale Hurston

 

I want my children to have all the things I couldn’t afford. Then I want to move in with them. -Phyllis Diller ( i just thought this quote was funny)

Sometimes humans surprise me and I guess after 31 years I shouldn’t let them. When there is a disaster everyone rushes in and there is this huge surge of people who want to help, donating to telethons, giving blood, sending out canned food, what ever the emergency calls for there is this certain group of people who run out and get involved in what ever the trendy cause to support is but in our everyay life we are to busy with our deadlines and our social media and what ever plans we are rushing off to do, we as a people have become blind how we can be helpful and make our communities a better place. As a mother to two boys who were born 14 months apart I can tell you I am grateful to the people who have done the simplest of things for us like held open a door for us. Most people don’t even notice a mom struggling to get her giant stroller into a building with two screaming toddlers, ready to run in opposite directions anymore. Or they are to busy tweeting or putting up a Facebook status about how they hate crying toddler, giant strollers  and why cant moms control their children anymore.  No one looks out for each other any more, we don’t get to know our neighbors and we are so stuck in this fast pace, gotta hit our goals, gotta update our online social media accounts, that we don’t stop to look around and see what is happing right in front of us, to our neighbors and our friends. We just wait for some tragedy to happen and then we jump in and help and I can honestly say if we as a people continue to keep our nose to the ground and don’t allow our plans to change or our lives to be interrupted to help someone else in need our neighborhoods or just going to continue to go down hill and what kind of place will we be bringing those screaming toddlers up in. 

Ok so I went into all of that because the boys and I were driving to church on Sunday and there was a traffic back up and I was sitting there wondering what the heck was going on and I was upset because we were already running late for church and there was this traffic back up. When I got up to the cause of the traffic back up, I was amazed to see an older man pushing a woman in a car and no one was stopping to help this man. He was bent over grabbing his chest and I don’t know if I was in more disbelief or disgusted that no one was helping this man. Any way with my two toddlers in the car I pulled over into a parking lot, got out and helped push the broken down car across the intersection and into another parking lot. I didn’t have time to really talk to the person I helped because the boy were sitting in the car alone but I know I helped out  

#21 helped push a broken down car.

I just want to say I had every excuse in the world to pass by that man and not help. I had two little boys who had to sit in the car alone and in the cold while I pushed the car out of the street, I was already late, I wasn’t exactly in car pushing clothes and I broke my tibial plateau this summer and my knee still kills me and I had a stress fracture; I think my orthopedic surgeon wouldn’t have been to happy about me pushing a car.

 

Take a look around and see what you can do to help your community and after you run through every excuse you have, ask yourself really how good are those excuses you give yourself everyday to not get involved and have a positive impact on other peoples lives.      

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Giving Back

My mother had a great deal of trouble with me, but I think she enjoyed it. 
Mark Twain 

I have been following Kyra Root’s story on a Facebook for awhile. Kyra was an 8 year old little girl with big dreams who was fighting osteosarcoma (bone cancer). I celebrated along with many others when she went into remission and was devastated when the cancer came back. On Tuesday she lost her battle to cancer. Purple was her favorite color and she had so much more to give. Her family needs help and has set up a website where you can donate money towards her funeral. If you want to send flowers here are some addresses where they can be sent LIFEChurch, 1416 Larkin-Williams Road, Fenton, MO 63026 or Fieser Funeral Home, 401 Gravois Rd, Fenton, MO 63026.

act of kindness #18 Gave to Kyra

My mom has an amazing set of friends and it was always important to her to take care of the people who were around her and the people she loved so much. I want to continue taking care of the people she loved so we chose to donate to Lupus of America. you can donate at http://donate.lupus.org . I did a one time donation and just selected the amount I wanted to give. In order to give to Lupus you can also donate

  • Clothing — all types and sizes
  • Shoes — all types and sizes
  • All bedding items
  • Draperies and curtains
  • Housewares and glassware
  • Jewelry and cosmetics
  • Toys and games
  • Knick knacks
  • Small appliances
  • Tools of all kinds

#19 donated to Lupus 

 

#20 while grocery shopping John helped load a lady who bought a pallet of flower and sugar into her car. I hope she was cooking something good!

 

I’m sorry my blogs have not been very regular. I am about as good of a blogger as I am a baker ( I burn everything!). I have been so busy staying at home with the boys, we are always on the move and somehow I have to squeeze in studying for my pathophysiology class I have been taking and I have been going to the gym everyday for one hour so I can be around adults and rehab my leg. These acts of kindness and this blog is not taking a backseat, I just don’t have time to right a meaningful blog every time I do an act of kindness. I cant believe I only have 42 more to do! 

 

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So much kindness.

The love of husbands and wives may waver; brothers and sisters may become deep-rooted enemies; but a mother’s love is so strong and unyielding that it usually endures all circumstances: good fortune and misfortune, prosperity and privation, honor and disgrace. A mother’s love perceives no impossibilities.
– Paddock

Hey I just wanted to update this while the kids are occupied.

#15 We gave a jacket to a person who needed it. 

#16 I paid for part of someones groceries at Target. this was the first time that I did something for someone and they seemed angry about it. I think that she didn’t really understand what was going on since I just walked up to register quickly told her what I was doing and why. Hopefully she enjoyed her surprise after it settled in.

#17 we bought a coffee for a man sitting alone at the cafe in Target. He was pretty happy and very chatty.

If nothing else comes of this I pray, my children learn the importance of giving back, even when money is tight you can find ways to be kind and good to people.

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Sorry it has been awhile

I have started numerous blogs to track many things I have done in my life and each time I do, Whatever I am blogging about consumes my world and the blog takes a back seat. So let me update you on whats been going on. We use to have a regular babysitter but at the beginning of the month they suddenly stopped baby sitting so we were piecing together babysitters week by week so I could continue working. After a lot thought and prayers it just made sense for John and I that I leave my job and stay at home full time with our boys. It’s weird because I am really going to love being home with the boys but I really loved my job (except for the person I worked directly with, she sort of became a nightmare. It drove me nuts because I was working so hard to find babysitters and things were so hard for us and I go to work and all this lady can do is yell all day about everything. When I first started she was ok, I knew we wouldn’t be best friends but I thought we would get along and then she went on vacation and it seemed like her evil twin sister came back.). The boys have been sick and we have been working on potty training with Briggs, He has been doing well but we are not there yet. Potty training does mean a constant  flow of skittles in our house so that is the great news. 

I want to take some time to talk about the acts of kindness that have been done for me. Like I mentioned earlier we suddenly lost our babysitter on January 2nd and the people who helped us make the last month work have been so amazing. The friends who messaged me with their trusted caregivers and the people who gave up their days off to help us and the people who got the frantic phone calls begging for help. Thank you we love you. I also would like to thank a friend who donated 62 dollars to a woman’s shelter in honor of my mother. We also have a friend who is doing 62 acts of kindness by posting encouraging quotes on her Facebook page which has been really wonderful for me to read her quotes.   

So last week I bought some pre-made cookie dough with full intentions to deliver them to our  local fire station and police department and I knew I would need a few practice runs because honestly I am not much of a baker. If my sons need to learn how to shoot a free throw or learn how to elbow someone in the face to get rebound and get away with it I am their girl but if they need something baked, I am not their girl. Anyway so far the cookies have tasted good but haven’t looked very edible. So I think I am going to buy donuts or something not made by me. ok so onto my acts of kindness. 

#12 I helped load groceries into an elderly persons car while it was super cold. She was a little freaked out and probably thought I was going to rob her at first but once she safely made it into her car with all of her belongings I got a very big thank you.

#13 We live near a main road and I believe a lot of trash drifts onto our street because of it, Or I have really messy neighbors. before there was snow on the ground the boys and I took a  little walk and picked up trash around our street. I can honestly say that if it wasn’t so cold we would have done more and perhaps during the warm parts of the year the boys and I will continue doing this once a month so they learn the value of being a good neighbor.

#14 is a simple one I just cleared my neighbors sidewalk after the snow. 

Like I said we have been sick and my cookies were a complete fail so I hope to get more done and to post a little more regularly on here. I also have my first test in my patho on monday so that has taken up a bunch of my time.

thanks for reading

xoxo

Becky  

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Just the basics acts of kindness #11

“My mother is a poem
I’ll never be able to write,
though everything I write
is a poem to my mother.”
–Sharon Doubiago

If you look at the picture from my last post, it is a picture of a flyer asking for donations for our troops. For act of kindness #11 I will be collecting items to donate to our troops. They are asking for just basic items that our troops need. Here is the list just in case you don’t want to read the flyer.
Tweezers
Nail clippers
Nail files
Sun screen
Chap stick
Dental floss
Tooth brush
Toothpaste
Shaving cream
Disposable blades
Lotions
Face wash towelettes
Spray deodorant
Baby wipes in pouches not canisters
Q-tips
Band aids
Socks (brown)
Army Green shirts
Candy (chocolate is acceptable)
Magazines (I believe they have to PG )
Paper
Pens
Decks of cards
Hand held games (with batteries)
Flavoring water packets
Hand written letters (be advised that letters will be read by an officer before they reach a unit)
I am going to be collecting things until February 14th and delivering them on the 15th
If you would like to donate something please message me and we can find a way to get the item or items to me. If you would like to send me cash I would be happy to send you a receipt showing you what I purchased.

Xoxo
Becky
Thank you for all of your support during this journey.

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